To the Wayward Wives out there,
I do not judge you. I understand what you’re thinking, what you’re feeling. Perhaps your husband has neglected you for years, leaving you feeling lonely and empty and taken for granted. Or, perhaps, he is verbally abusive — maybe he puts you down, or blows up at you over the littlest things, and your heart just can’t take it anymore.
And, when nothing good seems to be coming your way, you met him: the sweet, caring, thrilling guy
who listens. Maybe you talked to him about your marriage woes, or maybe you escaped with him with exciting conversations that distract you from your problems. Whatever the case, he became a dear friend. He actually listened. He actually admired you, and everything you must go through. He cares. Eventually, your friendship turned to love, and you would do anything for him — perhaps even give your body to him.
I understand that. I was there.
Now I implore you to listen to me for a bit. None of it is worth it. That may not make sense, but it’s true.
The road you are going down feels so right, but it leads to destruction. Your children will suffer. You see, the marriage you have with their father is the foundation for their entire world. And when their foundation crumbles, their whole world falls a part. Sure, you could get them counseling. But that will never repair the damage that is done. They will continue to suffer into adulthood, and they may even choose to cut you out of their lives because it is too painful to be around you.
They need you to be a strong woman and put their needs before your own. They need you to end your affair and repair your marriage.
Your own life is suffering, as well. If guilt is not already eating you up, it will and your health will go downhill. Do you feel the gnawing knot in your stomach yet? It just about killed me. That, plus the high anxiety, stole countless hours of sleep from me, which affected my ability to live life to the fullest. And trust me, if you were to divorce your husband now and start living the single life, life will become A LOT HARDER for you. Shuffling kids around, trying to raise them alone, living on only your own income … Your boyfriend will eventually leave you, and you will be alone.
And your husband … I know you do not care much about him right now. But even he, no matter what he has done to you, doesn’t deserve the pain this affair inflicts on him. I have talked to people who have suffered through the death of a child AND the betrayal of their spouses, and they say that the betrayal was by far the worst thing that has ever happened to them. Can you imagine anything being worse than the death of your child? That’s what your husband is going through. The father of your children doesn’t deserve that.
But, you are not doomed to a life of misery. I promise you that you can have a beautiful life, deeply in
love with your best friend. A life so romantic and great and happy you can hardly stand it. It’s not with your Other Man. You CAN have that fairy tale with your husband.
If you could have that with your husband, would you be interested? If you knew that he would start treating you the way he should, if he wouldn’t hurt you, if you knew he could love you beyond your wildest dreams? If you knew he would be your secure, comforting friend that you could rely on — would you be interested?
Because he can. Your marriage doesn’t have to end — You CAN have that fairy tale. We can show you the plan to turn things around.
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